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Do you ever picture yourself as a president of the country, or receiving that prestigious award for an accomplishment, or speaking in front of millions of people that sunny afternoon? For a minute, YES!
But as soon as that day dream brings smile to my face, it disappears the next second – Nah, I can’t do that! I am not worthy. How can I speak in front of so many people, or what accomplishment can I make in order to win an award or Me, The President of United States of America? Oh, puhleeezeeee!!!
Lack of self-esteem is one of the most common things women suffer from. It’s easy, especially in society’s current cooking pot, to lose your sense of self or your confidence in that self. Whether it be external or internal, lack of self-esteem is one of the things that holds us all back.
It causes depression, self-doubt and often anxiety, and can be the reason you didn’t get the job you were eying out, or that cute guy at the coffee shop. The key to finding that inner beauty, that inner woman, is realizing that whoever you are and however you look, you are perfect.
You’re perfect because you can’t change what you were given (physically) but you can change the emotions that pull you back from the true shining potential you’re capable of.
Easier said than done, right?
I, too, went through a very rough patch during postpartum, and have managed to regain a lot of confidence in myself and my capabilities, through a few key techniques.
So here they are: 5 ways to build your self-esteem and gain self confidence
1. Stand Tall, Walk Tall
You are a woman, let them hear you roar. Let your roar be the sight of you walking down the street. Even if you feel low, or like you’re nowhere at the moment, straighten up that posture and walk like you own the place.
People will start to look at you, and not for all the crazy reasons you think they are. They’ll look because you seem confident and in control. That’s just from walking straight and acting like you own everything and everyone.
It seems a little unbelievable, but just by squaring my shoulders and acting like I had loads of self-esteem, I started actually regaining it. It’s like a habit you get caught in – one that actually benefits you. If you do it long enough, you start to believe the theory behind it.
Whenever I’m feeling low, my cupboards are a complete mess. I have to pull everything out onto the floor to find something to wear.
That’s how you should do it, right? WRONG! The more organized you are, the more in control you feel, and the higher your confidence level gets.
So take a trip to that wardrobe of yours, and pull everything out onto the floor. Now, organize it according to color.
Pink shirts here, blues there and so on. This way, when you wake up in the morning, you can easily pick out what you want to wear, and feel more confident doing it.
Less chaos = more self-esteem.
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3. Positive Thinking
This is a BIG one, HUGE! How you talk to yourself in your head, has the humongous effect on your outlook or sense of self. If you’re negative and nasty to yourself all the time, and if you judge yourself for every little thing that goes wrong in the day, you just end up lowering those levels even more.
It’s time to face facts, ladies: you are worth it. You have value. You are important. Start being kinder to yourself. If you judged others half as harshly as you judge yourself, you wouldn’t have any friends left.
That’s something to think about. So next time you’re thinking something negative, stop yourself. Turn that negative into a positive:
“Yeah, I didn’t react the right way in that situation, but you know what, I learned from it and I’ll do better next time. Because I’m that awesome.”
This ties in with walking tall. Smile like you have a secret and people will start to see you as the mysterious confident stranger. That’s way better than being viewed as that frumpy gal with an attitude problem.
Truthfully, it doesn’t matter what they think. You know what matters? What matters is what YOU think. Smiling when you feel like crying is a great way to deal with pain and get into a habit.
Life gave you lemons? You don’t have to make lemonade. You can make preserve, if you want. Lemon curd even. Just laugh while you’re doing it. That will make all the difference in the world.
5. Eat Well
Eat the right things. Not doughnuts and binge food. Try start a regime where you eat fruits and vegetables. Look, it’s unreasonable to try giving up all your favorite treats and snacks, but settle for making healthy meals for dinner – Mexican, Italian, French – and pick a great new hobby. Cookin’!
If you want something sweet, nibble on that DARK chocolate. This stuff is rich in antioxidants and can actually combat anxiety and depression. Delicious and nutritious!
If you’re feeling down, and like you’ve lost your mojo, just remember that everything you do affects those around you, and everything they do affects those around them. Thus, by extension, you affect the world around you.
That, my friend, makes you pretty darn important, I’d say.
Have any tips for combating a low self-esteem? Leave them in the comment box below: we’d love to get your opinion!